It is not what people do to us that matters. It is our reaction to what happens that can change a heart.
How often do we feel justified in treating others as badly as they have treated us? But does that make us any better than them? Why do we allow how others treat us to change who we are and how we react? We should instead change others by how we treat them and who we are. It is far more complimentary to have others imitating our good behaviour than for us to imitate their bad.
A smile, a hug, a kind word or a good deed can easily reach deep down into the heart of someone who feels sad, unloved, unappreciated or that no one cares. Never underestimate the power of the smallest gesture of kindness shown towards others.
When we make an effort to make others feel good about themselves, that feeling is returned to us tenfold causing a change within our own hearts and igniting a desire to continue doing more for others. Never stop.
Quite often our efforts to do good are not appreciated but, if we have done it with the right intention, it should not deter us from continuing to do so. If we do things with an ulterior motive we run the risk of changing a heart negatively. Take care!*
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Simple Rules
SIMPLE RULES TO LIVE BY:
If you are a child, be the type of child you would like to rear when you become a parent.
If you are a parent, be the type of parent you would have liked as a child.
If you are a husband, be the type of husband you would like your daughter to marry.
If you are a wife, be the type of wife you would like your son to marry.
If you are a mother-in-law, be the type of mother-in-law you would have wanted.
If you are a daughter-in-law, be the type of daughter-in-law you would like to have.
If you are a child, be the type of child you would like to rear when you become a parent.
If you are a parent, be the type of parent you would have liked as a child.
If you are a husband, be the type of husband you would like your daughter to marry.
If you are a wife, be the type of wife you would like your son to marry.
If you are a mother-in-law, be the type of mother-in-law you would have wanted.
If you are a daughter-in-law, be the type of daughter-in-law you would like to have.
Debt talk!
FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR OWN HEALTH!
I am amazed at the amount of debt in which people find themselves. Quite honestly, I would probably have a heart attack if I had to be in some people’s shoes.
Having debt is not the problem as such, it is how we manage our debt. Do we really need to have four or five credit cards and an account at almost every clothing store?
REDUCE YOUR DEBT
AND IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH!
Do you really need to buy all the things you buy? Do you need to have the latest fashions or the most up to date cell phone or newest car? Is it really worth the sleepless nights you have trying to figure out how to pay for all of it. Ask yourself how others, who do not have all the luxuries you have in life, manage.
Does your grocery bill really have to come to a couple of thousand rand every month? And at the end of it all you have nothing to show for it except some extra kilograms which affect your health anyway.
Just as with changing your diet, reducing your debt is a slow and tedious process. It is hard work and you will not see the results immediately. The sooner you start, the sooner you will see things changing.
“How do I start?” you might ask. STOP BUYING! Every time you purchase something ask yourself whether you honestly need it. If you could possibly do without it, do not buy it.
Start by assessing your monthly grocery bill. Do you really need to buy things such as chips, biscuits, cooldrinks and other luxuries in bulk? Is it possible that you could reduce the amount that you buy?
Instead of stocking up try buying luxuries on weekends only or when you are expecting guests.
Next take stock of all your accounts. Choose one which you would like to get rid of the most and start paying it off slowly but surely. As soon as you have paid it off cut up the card and start paying off your next account.
I know that this is really hard to start doing but believe me when you have managed to pay off your first account you will be so proud of yourself that you will look forward to paying off your other accounts.
Just imagine having all the money you were spending on your monthly bills available to spend on yourself when all your debt has been paid off. Eventually you will be able to say that your car and the bond on your house has been paid off.
Then you can say good-bye to sleepless nights and hello to a whole new way of living.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE!
I am amazed at the amount of debt in which people find themselves. Quite honestly, I would probably have a heart attack if I had to be in some people’s shoes.
Having debt is not the problem as such, it is how we manage our debt. Do we really need to have four or five credit cards and an account at almost every clothing store?
REDUCE YOUR DEBT
AND IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH!
Do you really need to buy all the things you buy? Do you need to have the latest fashions or the most up to date cell phone or newest car? Is it really worth the sleepless nights you have trying to figure out how to pay for all of it. Ask yourself how others, who do not have all the luxuries you have in life, manage.
Does your grocery bill really have to come to a couple of thousand rand every month? And at the end of it all you have nothing to show for it except some extra kilograms which affect your health anyway.
Just as with changing your diet, reducing your debt is a slow and tedious process. It is hard work and you will not see the results immediately. The sooner you start, the sooner you will see things changing.
“How do I start?” you might ask. STOP BUYING! Every time you purchase something ask yourself whether you honestly need it. If you could possibly do without it, do not buy it.
Start by assessing your monthly grocery bill. Do you really need to buy things such as chips, biscuits, cooldrinks and other luxuries in bulk? Is it possible that you could reduce the amount that you buy?
Instead of stocking up try buying luxuries on weekends only or when you are expecting guests.
Next take stock of all your accounts. Choose one which you would like to get rid of the most and start paying it off slowly but surely. As soon as you have paid it off cut up the card and start paying off your next account.
I know that this is really hard to start doing but believe me when you have managed to pay off your first account you will be so proud of yourself that you will look forward to paying off your other accounts.
Just imagine having all the money you were spending on your monthly bills available to spend on yourself when all your debt has been paid off. Eventually you will be able to say that your car and the bond on your house has been paid off.
Then you can say good-bye to sleepless nights and hello to a whole new way of living.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE!
Sunday, May 23, 2010
A Child's Story
Once upon a time, a good many years ago, there was a traveller, and he set out upon a journey. It was a magic journey, and was to seem very long when he began it, and very short when he got half way through.
He travelled along a rather dark path for some little time, without meeting anything, until at last he came to a beautiful child. So he said to the child, "What do you do here?" And the child said, "I am always at play. Come and play with me!"
They played and played till time stood still but the man on the journey never gave the child freedom of will. He said "child you play without any thought, where are the ones who have lived and taught." The child said "Sir I know of no other way of being all that I do is all that i'm seeing." This child never learned of a life that is serious and always thought that play wouldn't be mischevious. The man said "child I would love to stay and play some more but seriously I need to get back to my family who I adore." The child said "sir there's no problem in that and I ask for forgiveness if you thought me to be a brat." The man forgave the boy without a second thought and that's when the child said "thanks from your Lord."
He travelled along a rather dark path for some little time, without meeting anything, until at last he came to a beautiful child. So he said to the child, "What do you do here?" And the child said, "I am always at play. Come and play with me!"
They played and played till time stood still but the man on the journey never gave the child freedom of will. He said "child you play without any thought, where are the ones who have lived and taught." The child said "Sir I know of no other way of being all that I do is all that i'm seeing." This child never learned of a life that is serious and always thought that play wouldn't be mischevious. The man said "child I would love to stay and play some more but seriously I need to get back to my family who I adore." The child said "sir there's no problem in that and I ask for forgiveness if you thought me to be a brat." The man forgave the boy without a second thought and that's when the child said "thanks from your Lord."
Crazy Dreams.....
I lay in my bed and think about an adventure, on that has a little bit of everything in it.
A bomb goes off in the middle of the day and it's choas every where i look i just can't get rid of people screaming. I tremble at what could happen next and there are so many things racing through my head it comes out as binary 1000010010110101010. I look around and all I see is bodies, dead bodies I really don't know what happened. This was a shock.
1 hour before, Hey love what's your plans for today, me and the boys are planning to go to the Fan Park and watch the soccer, let me know if you're interested okay, anyways enjoy your day mwahz. So me and the boys were off to enjoy our day, stop at the bottle store and people were all dressed up in their Bafana Bafana supporters gear what a great sense of atmosphere these people bring, I thought to myself. The euphoria was in the air as the opening match between Mexico and South Africa was about to get under way in a few hours time the feel it is here feeling was definately here. So we finally get to Cape Town and we are about to enter the Fan Park but are searched and stopped upon enter as FIFA requires. The game was amazing and everyone had a blast.
We lost reception during the game and then I heard a loud thunderous noise, people screaming and bodies flying all over the place. This was definately a terrorist attack.
Present, I looked for my friends but lost them in the madness, all this confusion nobody knows what had happened all they know is that there's complete choas. As I was making my way to the exit, a second blast went off and that's when I stopped, a piece of metal debris punctured me in the chest. I knew it was all over and then I suddenly woke up. The relief, i'm alive and that was one crazy dream.
A bomb goes off in the middle of the day and it's choas every where i look i just can't get rid of people screaming. I tremble at what could happen next and there are so many things racing through my head it comes out as binary 1000010010110101010. I look around and all I see is bodies, dead bodies I really don't know what happened. This was a shock.
1 hour before, Hey love what's your plans for today, me and the boys are planning to go to the Fan Park and watch the soccer, let me know if you're interested okay, anyways enjoy your day mwahz. So me and the boys were off to enjoy our day, stop at the bottle store and people were all dressed up in their Bafana Bafana supporters gear what a great sense of atmosphere these people bring, I thought to myself. The euphoria was in the air as the opening match between Mexico and South Africa was about to get under way in a few hours time the feel it is here feeling was definately here. So we finally get to Cape Town and we are about to enter the Fan Park but are searched and stopped upon enter as FIFA requires. The game was amazing and everyone had a blast.
We lost reception during the game and then I heard a loud thunderous noise, people screaming and bodies flying all over the place. This was definately a terrorist attack.
Present, I looked for my friends but lost them in the madness, all this confusion nobody knows what had happened all they know is that there's complete choas. As I was making my way to the exit, a second blast went off and that's when I stopped, a piece of metal debris punctured me in the chest. I knew it was all over and then I suddenly woke up. The relief, i'm alive and that was one crazy dream.
Try a cliché
A cliché is a saying, expression, idea, or element of an artistic work which has been overused to the point of losing its original meaning. We use them all the time, some of us do't even know the meaning behind them. Phrases like the early bird gets the worm, good things come to those who wait, mind your manners and it ain't over till the fat lady sings. All these clichés had relevance at sometime and are slowing losing it along the way.
To me a cliché is a concept that should be used when you have writer's block or something of that nature. A cliché is great for sounding intelligent and pretending like you've been round for centuries but try making one up yourself is proably the hardest thing one ever told you to do, I tried it and this is what I came up with. For a Philosopher, a conspiracy is more precious than platinum. As laid back as a student. As vulgar, as a drunk coloured woman. To me some of them are good but just not as catchy as i would of hoped. I've tried my hand of clichés now see if you can come up with a few of your own. Orginality is the key and we all consider ourselves as individuals so it shouldn't be hard for you to come up with your own clichés.
To me a cliché is a concept that should be used when you have writer's block or something of that nature. A cliché is great for sounding intelligent and pretending like you've been round for centuries but try making one up yourself is proably the hardest thing one ever told you to do, I tried it and this is what I came up with. For a Philosopher, a conspiracy is more precious than platinum. As laid back as a student. As vulgar, as a drunk coloured woman. To me some of them are good but just not as catchy as i would of hoped. I've tried my hand of clichés now see if you can come up with a few of your own. Orginality is the key and we all consider ourselves as individuals so it shouldn't be hard for you to come up with your own clichés.
Feelings follow behaviour.
Why do we let feelings get the better of us, feelings are reactive and don't care about the behaviour that follows. The trigger of the feelings are verbal and sometimes non-verbal. What makes things worst are that sometimes our behaviour is so irrational that we wonder if such a thing would of triggered the same behaviour to someone who has a different culture or lifestyle. The trick is to change the cycle and let behaviour follow feelings.
Do something that gives you a good feeling afterwards and don't let anybody stop you from doing this. Often people behave because of their feelings, but very seldom do they do things the otherway around behave to get a certain feeling. If behaving to get a certain feeling was the order of the day then very few people would be fighting and living in constant fear. We would become a society of proactive people, thinking before we leap into the unknown. One of the greatest things that a human could ever achieve is harmony within ones self. By achieving harmony with the soul, you begin to feel happy about yourself and there's nothing that anybody else can do to make you feel different. If we let feelings follow behaviour we lost harmony within ourselves but the otherway around could be the key to saving society.
Do something that gives you a good feeling afterwards and don't let anybody stop you from doing this. Often people behave because of their feelings, but very seldom do they do things the otherway around behave to get a certain feeling. If behaving to get a certain feeling was the order of the day then very few people would be fighting and living in constant fear. We would become a society of proactive people, thinking before we leap into the unknown. One of the greatest things that a human could ever achieve is harmony within ones self. By achieving harmony with the soul, you begin to feel happy about yourself and there's nothing that anybody else can do to make you feel different. If we let feelings follow behaviour we lost harmony within ourselves but the otherway around could be the key to saving society.
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